The benefits of sharing thoughts through an FLR blog are that you receive comments that help you put another slant on your thinking and help broaden your own views.
A good example of this was the response to my recent blog post regarding the current ‘training period’ Mistress has instigated.
As I noted, Mistress has done away with maintenance punishment in favour of using corporal punishment to discipline me, as and when she sees fit.
She obviously decides when disciplinary methods are required but there is also an onus on me to self-report any of my failings that I know warrant her attention.
I took this to mean obvious shortcomings but WhMs made an excellent observation, asking whether this self-reporting should include failing in my inner thoughts too.
WhMs’ comment actually read: “Are you also putting in any mental/emotional moments of sullenness, resentment, exasperation, whatever, even if they didn't have any outward manifestation?”
I’d not thought of this but it’s a very good point and one that I would agree is very pertinent to our DD regime. Considering this, yes, my thoughts should be of matter for Mistress’ consideration.
It’s one thing to say ‘Yes Mistress’ and accept her direction – but it’s another if inside there is some adverse emotion. I think in most case I am quite transparent – Mistress knows if I m rebelling against her authority – but I will admit that there are times when I’m in another room and inwardly rebel, take a deep breath and then go to Mistress perfectly compliant.
I also wondered in my last post how things might be once Mistress is more satisfied by my level of compliance within this revised regime.
The view of WhMs is: “I'll be very interested to see how that plays out - how much of her vision and enjoyment is based on a more compliant subby vs. how much is the enjoyment of keeping you on your toes, making you stretch out of your comfort zone? A non-relaxed you may be pretty enticing.”
I think WhMs is right on this point too and I’m sure Mistress would prefer an always attentive subby. It’s a daunting prospect of no let up in our domestic discipline but I’m sure WhMs is 1000% right and that’s how it should be.
dualpurpose27 had a similar thought to WhMs and said: “During your training period Mistress is deciding what is important to Her and exactly how you should behave in each situation. You are being trained and learning how to be compliant.
“I think your speed and ability to ‘learn and become totally compliant’ will drive your ability to ‘relax’. However, I suggest you disabuse yourself of the concept of ‘relax’. You need to remain attentive, compliant, supportive, and totally submissive at all times.
“Therefore, you must always be alert and attentive to Mistress's needs, moods, and desires. You must anticipate, adapt, and behave properly at all times. When you have learned, then yes, you will have fun, pleasant, and extremely enjoyable times together. You will talk, laugh, enjoy social events, and have fun shopping. From experience, I suggest you learn quickly.”
Again, such eloquent thoughts. The pertinent point is, as dualpurpose27 says, remaining alert, being more aware of Mistress and her needs, which is the one area I’ve been negligent in the past and where I really need to focus.
It’s also why Mistress and I both agreed that a DD lifestyle would be an ideal way to keep our relationship on track and fresh.