I’m sad to report that we’ve still not resumed our domestic discipline regime. It’s not through want of trying on either of us. I’m still having weekly physio sessions on a bad back and had a doctor’s appointment to see if there might be something more sinister that’s giving me the now persistent back problem. That is likely to entail a scan so until that’s resolved, Mistress and I feel it prudent for me not to sporting any cane marks.
It’s very frustrating since we both feel that corporal punishment is an integral part of our DD regime.
I know some might ask why contemplate being caned while suffering with a back problem? If you are bent over a bench and secured, you open out the back anyway to relieve the pain so it’s not an issue. But yes, while you are down with a persistent ache or pain anyway, the last thing on your mind is a good thrashing. And Mistress understands this.
Having said that, it doesn’t in anyway reduced that intense feeling of ‘need’ for the cane – no matter how horrible it may be receiving it. And it doesn’t help a relationship where use of the cane benefits the state of mind in both partners.
There are of course other sanctions possible and after a minor tiff last night we both recognized that our increased work stress, combined with the frustrations not being able to lead the home life we both need to come up with some short-term alternatives to keep me on track.
After our cross words I said to Mistress, “you would normally have cane me for that, wouldn’t you?”
She replied, “I wouldn’t just have caned you, I’d have thrashed you black and blue. But don’t think I’ll forget about you raising your voice.”
Mistress is out today and I’m going to be working the rest of the day but we’ve agreed to sit down and discuss some much-needed non-corporal disciplinary measures to see us through this period.
You would probably say that as an adult I should be able to manage my own discipline but as any of you in a real DD relationship know, there is always room for improvement, especially if the Lady of the house expects high standards.
The question is, what non-corporal punishments might be as effective as the corrective measures of the cane? Writing lines, apology letters, withdrawal of privileges, corner time, extra chores, mouth soaping, sissy clothing humiliation – even punishment pants?
Only recently we both laughed when I showed Mistress a pair of hessian ‘punishment’ bloomers on eBay!
But latter two seem like fetish indulgences rather that strict forms of correction - though spending long hours in uncomfortable, effeminate attire might not be too pleasant.
We would be very interested to know what other effective methods couples in DD relationships might employ as an alterative to more traditional corporal punishments.