He was pondering how well he might be able to take the severe cane or paddle strokes from a harsh and unforgiving Lady. I’m sure many of us have had the fantasy. But, from his previous posts, it sounds like his wife doesn’t hold back in punishing him so I was surprised he brought the subject up - because he might well have earned himself a severe punishment session from his wife as a result.
It was a thought provoking post though.
Before my relationship with Mistress I did occasionally visit professional disciplinarians to explore my fantasies.
I chose the disciplinarians with a reputation for being hard caners and received some fairly severe punishments but there was always a feeling that I was the one in control of the situation, and while they hurt me, I never felt like I’d been pushed beyond my limits.
If I’m honest, I lay part of that down to the way I approached the disciplinarian.
Maybe I wasn’t forthcoming enough to explain what I was looking for and maybe, because I was never a regular visitor to any one disciplinarian, none were prepared to really push me.
I always found that if I got a bit too vocal, the next few strokes would be a bit easier to take, so it was never like the real punishment I always wanted to experience. And, I suppose no matter how hard I tried to offer real faults for these people to cane me, it never felt like my guilt was being assuaged.
One lady who stood out though did give me a 36-stroke Judicial caning. That really hurt and took me places I never knew existed. To say I suffered is an understatement but even then, when it was finished, I wanted more.
But the biggest thing I could never overcome was going home feeling that something was really missing from those visits. I only realized what it was once I started dating Mistress and she agreed to indulge my fantasies by caning me. I think we both then discovered that incredible deep loving bond that comes with the flood of emotions after a punishment session.
The other aspect of being punished by the one you love is that limits don’t have to be respected. I’m not suggesting I’m being thrashed senseless but if the aim is to punish then it makes sense that suffering is part of the corrective process. It doesn’t make sense to a stick to any limit I might prefer. I’m delighted to say that Mistress is that ‘harsh, unforgiving Lady,’ when the mood takes her.
And finally, any time I receive the cane now is as a punishment for real faults so I always feel like I have learned a valuable lesson and the slate had been cleaned.
I suppose if Mistress herself came to a decision at some point that her punishments were not effective enough, and took it upon herself to book me an appointment with a professional disciplinarian, then I’d have no option but to go.
But it would have to be her suggestion and I’d hope she would insist on being present to witness that the punishment would be at a level of severity she deemed acceptable.