Thursday, 21 July 2011

Our first maintenance punishment

Our first maintenance punishment session was a simple affair. There was no need to discuss anything as all the talking had been done.

I think that once we get into a routine there will be more need to discuss my performance.

At 8.00pm precisely Mistress laid on the prescribed 36 strokes on my bare bottom, opting for the thin Dragon cane. I was told to count each stroke. There was no more than ten seconds between strokes.

Unusually, Mistress had me lay face down on the bed, with a leather footstool under my belly to raise my bottom. I therefore had to take my punishment without being secured. Normally I am punished over a bench, secured by wrist and feet.

Also unusually, I maintained position through the punishment. Some of the strokes burned and stung but on the whole I was able to soak them up without any fuss, although Mistress had to rebuke me early in the session for not counting quickly enough.

Afterwards Mistress informed me: “Think yourself lucky. That was very lenient. The stool raised your bottom too high so I was not able to cane as hard as normal. However, as this is the first such punishment I decided to be lenient but next Thursday you will go over the bench and we will ensure that these future sessions have a good degree of severity. After all, this is meant to be punishment and therefore you must suffer for it to have any effect.”

Mistress was right of course. And, as I said in my earlier post, it’s a little daunting to think that this is now a weekly routine and that tonight’s session was by no means anywhere near how Mistress intends me to suffer in future.

But this is good. The fact that Mistress is more than happy to deal with me in this way means so much. It will help reduce tensions that we both experience. It certainly reminds me who is in charge of the house. And it reaffirms our love for one another.


But tonight’s acquaintance with the cane wasn’t over. Mistress decided during the day that a couple of things I’d said – both times expressing negative thoughts – warranted punishment.

I earned seven strokes, which under the regime were working to, had to be applied separately, one hour after the maintenance punishment. We wrote this rule deliberately to keep the maintenance punishments separate from punishment for real faults.

This time I went over the bench and immediately felt the difference from the early session. This was more like the sort of caning I expect from Mistress. No nonsense, no mercy, full-blooded strokes.

Next Thursday is going to be very different. But first I’ve got to keep out of trouble until then.

First maintenance punishment tonight

We commence our new maintenance punishment regime tonight. At 8.00pm Mistress will fasten me to our bench and apply the Dragon cane with full force 36 times to my bare bottom.

It’s unnerving to know that even eight hours ahead of the event, worse still having known for the entire week - and being aware this is going to be a weekly routine.

I can blame no one else. I suggested the idea to Mistress after Michael M had mooted the idea in a response to one of my blog posts where I was complaining how difficult it was to maintaining any kind of FLR regime with both of us being so busy with work etc.

By arranging a weekly maintenance session each week, Michael M suggested both Mistress and I would know exactly what to expect of each other. I felt such a routine would help remind me of my place in our relationship.

Mistress jumped at the idea – I was surprised by her enthusiasm if I’m honest. She even suggested I draw up the ground rules – which I posted a last Sunday.

I made no further mention of it following that conversation but on Monday it became clear that it was going to become a regular part of our lives when Mistress announced during our evening meal that we would be starting this new regime on Thursday!

Since then we have spent quite some time each day discussing details – Mistress wanting to get it absolutely clear with me what she expects. And now the day has arrived.

As I said, it’s unnerving. Each time I think of it my stomach churns. It’s some time since I’ve been caned and a long time since I’ve been caned in a judicial-style method.

Mistress reckons 36 is no problem for me to take and she’s probably right since I’ve suffered more in the past. But I’m feeling a whole different psychology about this. It’s so premeditated and so judicial in style that, while I’m excited in one way, I am quite scared of the outcome, especially as I say, this is going to be a regular experience.

I’ve not been punished recently which doesn’t help. I find that regular sessions tune the mind to accept punishment more readily but maybe once this first session is out of the way I’ll accept the situation more easily.

What I have noticed though is that already I’m much more in tune with what Mistress is thinking and what her needs are so perhaps the regime will improve our flr – because ultimately, no matter how much I fantasise about my pleasures of the rod, the important thing is that I serve Mistress better.

Sunday, 17 July 2011

New 'Maintenance Punishment' regime

Mistress and I discussed the issues affecting the FLR side of our lives and we have both agreed we need some kind of consistency to our regime.

It works perfectly some of the time but when we have been apart for a while, due to our working lives, the whole thing starts to get a bit slack – mainly on my side I have to humbly admit. Faults we agreed that will be addressed by the use of corporal punishment go unpunished. And too often, even when Mistress suggests a need for corrective measures, I find excuses not to be punished. Furthermore it is imperative for us both that I stop my ‘bratting’ behaviour when I feel a new for CP.

We therefore have agreed to try a different tact and instigate a weekly maintenance punishment session, something suggested by Michael M in a comment on one of my recent blogs. Thank you Michael for your suggestion.

Mistress and I both agree that this could be a positive step for our FLR.

We’ve no idea whether it will work any better than our previous efforts but it’s worth trailing for a period of two months.

Mistress asked me to draw up a discussion document which I present here for your comments. From this we’ll finalise and agreement and implement it immediately.

The aim:
The aim is to reaffirm the dominant/submissive relationship we have.
And to ensure I maintain the correct attitude within the house, ensuring the Mistress is always afforded the respect and servitude that is expected in our flr.

Why the need?
To prevent any build up of tension between us and to stop the practice of me trying to encourage Mistress to use corporal punishment.
This punishment is not for any particular fault(s) but purely for the purpose of maintenance.

The procedure:
As we have discussed the regular day and time will be each Thursday at 8.00pm but as both of us have busy work schedules we will also agree that at the start of every week we will check our respective diaries and finalise the day and time for the routine, weekly punishment session. This punishment tariff is a set at 36 strokes of the cane, delivered full force at a pace of no more than 10s between strokes. The cane to be used is a Dragon (Mistress decides which to be used but cannot mix two type). If punishment cannot be delivered at the specified day and time, it is carried out on the next most convenient day. If punishment has to be carried over to the following week and a double dose delivered in full (72 strokes), one hour separating the two punishments.

The advantages of maintenance punishment:
It sets a weekly routine that has to be adhered to
It does away with any negotiation process
It removes the burden from the dominant partner to know when to punish
It helps focus the roles we have
It ends any craving for punishment and therefore stops any deliberate efforts to be punished
We both know exactly where we stand

The disadvantages of maintenance punishment:
The pressure of adhering to a strict, weekly deadline

What about punishment for real faults?
Real faults will still be subjected to correction by means of corporal punishment and will be administered as Mistress sees fit but will not form part of the routine maintenance punishment. If Mistress feels it necessary to address any faults on the day of the routine maintenance punishment, then a further punishment can be administered one hour after the maintenance session. However, with regular maintenance the intention is to encourage a more submissive attitude and improved behaviour thereby reducing the amounts of faults that need correction.